MOVE!

Have you ever moved before?  It’s hard work.  There is the sorting, organizing, wrapping, packing, and thorough labeling if you want to find what you packed later… quickly.  I heard it said recently that one of the top qualifications for a minister is FLEXABILITY.  The “called of God” have to be willing to go wherever, whenever, and however God provides.  It is a radical walk of faith.  Sometimes it feels like God shows up at the last minute, but I have learned in retrospect that He is right on time.  Our waiting time is actually His growing time.  While we wait, He tends the garden of our hearts and grows character deep within us.  I’m not saying this is fun, but it is a necessary evil in order to prepare us for the next stage of His journey for our lives.

God has a purpose and a plan for our lives.  We were not an accident.

Psalm 139:13-16 says…

“Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;

    you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!
    Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
    I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
    you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
    how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
    all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life all prepared
    before I’d even lived one day.” (MSG)

God knows us better than anyone else so inevitably He knows what is BEST for us, right?  In the midst of the chaos of our lives, however it’s hard sometimes to remember that.  MOVE!  Just the thought of it can fill me with anxiety at times.  After all of these years and many moves, I have almost become a pro at it.  All those things that were lost, misplaced, or scattered have been found… organized, labeled, and put in their designated resting place.  

After almost twenty years of marriage my husband and I can honestly say we have NOT become hoarders, packrats, or clutter bugs.  We haven’t had the opportunity… we keep moving forcing us to de-clutter our houses as well as our lives.  Less is better!  Watching friends who volunteered to help us move carry in box after box of junk overwhelmed us.  Was it really that precious to us that it took HOW LONG to move it all?  Moving de-clutters our lives and helps us find out what is really important to us.  For us, it’s not “things” but people we care about most.  Priorities have been re-evaluated and our lives adjusted to keep God in the center of our world wherever we go.  We have learned to hold on to the things we have loosely for the better good.

Colossians 3:1-2 says...
“So if you’re serious about living this new resurrection life with Christ, act like it. Pursue the things over which Christ presides. Don’t shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ—that’s where the action is. See things from his perspective.” (MSG)

I have discovered I have a curse on me when it comes to renting houses.  In the past couple years each time we rented a house it went up on the market and sold.  The first house we rented was in the country and needed lots of work.  We lived in it and got a great deal while it was on the market.  It was our way to get moved over to the town we wanted to live in until we found something else.  I really didn’t think it would sell quickly.  It wasn’t entirely livable when we first took possession of it, but after working my magic (and with a little assistance from others of course) it went from a piece of property to a home. 

I have the gift of making a house cozy.  I don’t want to live in a dump, so I try to make our house as homey as possible.  After all it’s where we spend most of our time, so it should be comfortable, right? 

Well, after maybe a year it sold.  My curse was making it too pretty I guess.  We moved short term into a duplex and in October landed an incredible house to rent.  It is amazing… 4 bedroom, 2 ½ bath, large living room/dining room, office area, 2 ½ car garage, above ground pool, fenced yard, and awesome garden area… down the road from a basketball court.  The perfect location and the perfect house…. We loved it!  I worked my magic and made it beautiful inside again… cozy and homey!  In May our landlords decided to put in on the market and in two weeks it SOLD!  Boo!  Uh… the too pretty curse got me again.  We move in less than three weeks now.  Yikes… (I should be packing!)

It may seem like this has all come out of the blue, but God has been involved in the moving process all along.  As I look back at every house we have ever lived in, God set us up.  He put specific people in our lives to cross paths with to reach for Him.  They were quirky pre-teen boys, lost & searching young adults, a woman suffering from an illness similar to mine, single mom’s needing encouragement, elderly people my boys were able to help out, and lonely people looking for friends.  We have had the opportunity to be “Jesus with skin on” to them and it has been amazing!

We are moving again, but this MOVE is ordained by God.  We are beginning a new chapter in our lives.  We are endeavoring to go back into full-time ministry.  We have had to step out for a season because of my health, but now is the time to return.  We don’t know where, when, or what, but we know we are moving toward that end.  God is prompting us! He has forced the move forward through transition with our living arrangements.  Our lives are in His capable hands and we trust Him.  Not to say that I like this moving thing, but when God is in it, it’s a lot easier to move His direction.

Have you ever been there before? …Too comfortable to MOVE.  I’m not talking about that feeling you get after a huge Thanksgiving feast (I think that’s a turkey thing).  I’m talking about moving beyond where you are comfortable spiritually to where God wants YOU to be.  God loves us to be “uncomfortable.”  When we move out of our comfort zone, it releases God to move in and make up the difference.  It forces us to let go and let God move in new ways… have His WAY in our lives.

Moving is hard and takes a lot of work whether we are speaking physically or spiritually.  It’s not fun, but once you get settled in to that new place it’s always worth it!  Moving involves a lot of FAITH!  There are a lot of unknowns in moving… where, when, why, how, the details are not always nailed down, and the plan does not always go as anticipated.  Life can become unpredictable at times.

In those moments of transition and un-comfortableness, secretly God is growing us.  He is the master gardener of our hearts.  His pursuit is godly fruit….deep roots of character that will stand the tests of time.  One character trait that grows best in the midst of adversity, challenging circumstances, the storms of life, the unpredictable, and the impossible is FAITH.  Faith in essence is trusting God with ALL of the details of your life.

Where is your faith level at today?  Is God growing you?  Has He been tending the garden stirring up the soil of your heart?  Is He asking you to MOVE?  When it comes to moving there is a lot of trusting involved, faith is tested, sacrifices are make, and God is magnified in and through our lives.  Are you willing to MOVE?  Are you ready to step out?  I dare you to MOVE in His direction!

What is He asking YOU to do?  Maybe moving for you means stepping out of your comfort zone into a new place… What does that “new place” look like?  It could be a new area of ministry to serve, inviting someone to church, starting a Bible study, praying as a family before meals, spending more quality time with God, setting boundaries in your relationships with the opposite sex, reaching out to the homeless or broken-hearted, finding a mentor, pursuing a new career or chasing a dream. 

Maybe you need to make a MOVE toward God.  Are you stuck in a routine that doesn’t involve God?  A MOVE in that direction for you may require change.  It could be giving up a job, changing churches, letting go of unhealthy relationships, tithing more, or rebuilding your relationship with God.  You may feel far away from Him and a lost cause, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.  Step out and MOVE toward Him and watch what happens. 

James 4:8 says…

^“Come close to God, and God will come close to you.” (NLT)

What is it for YOU?  MOVE!  Could it mean a literal “move” answering a call to full-time ministry and taking the steps to fulfill that dream?  It’s scary, but moving CAN be exciting too.  New people to meet, new things to learn, new things to do…  “new” CAN be a good thing (physically and spiritually).  I dare you to MOVE!

Are there dreams in your heart God has planted years ago that are getting dusty?  MOVE!  It’s better to do SOMETHING, than nothing.  Start walking His direction and He will show you which way to go next.

Psalm 37:23 says…

^“The Lord directs the steps of the godly.
 He delights in every detail of their lives.” (NLT)

I think you are getting the point hopefully.  God wants us to be willing to MOVE and obey Him at a moments notice with no agenda prepared.  He wants us to trust Him with the literal moves and the spiritual ones.  He wants to transform our lives and hearts as we learn to trust Him with all that we hold dear to us.  He is trustworthy!  If you are in a place of uncertainty I encourage you to… MOVE!  Be obedient to God and MOVE toward Him.  It’s a scary place to be, but do we really trust Him with our lives, families, and future?  There is no safer place I would rather be than in the palm of God’s hand.  I relinquish my will and way so HIS may be accomplished in my life.  I trust Him today, do you?

Jeremiah 29:11 says…

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (NIV)

God wants to fill you with hope for the future.  Lift your hands up in surrender and trust Him with the details.  He’s got this covered!  I look forward to seeing you on the other side of your comfort zone.  I’m sure your life will never be the same!

Living to leave a legacy,

Julie

Negative Habits to Break!!!

A friend posted this article recently and I thought it might encourage you... It says for tweens, but I think it applies to EVERY family. Enjoy!  Please let us know what you think.   I love feedback!

http://www.imom.com/parenting/tweens/parenting/training/10-negative-habits-your-family-needs-to-kick/

Gardening Our Hearts

                                                                                                              

Spring is here and if you haven’t realized it yet, it’s gardening season. I was not one of those privileged people to be born with a green thumb. In fact when my husband and I first got married I received an ivy plant. I was so excited I told him we would call it faith and as our marriage grew the plant would also. After about four months it died. I guess I either watered it too much or not enough. Needless to say… I am not a gardener. I assured my husband this was no reflection of our marriage. Its been almost 20 years and we are still going strong.  I just can’t seem to keep plants alive.

My son on the other hand loves gardening. He helped a neighbor with his large garden last year. He loved planting the seeds, watering, weeding, and seeing the fruit of his labor. I have tried not to discourage him and to stay out of his way. Maybe he has some gardening gene in him I am unaware of that will come naturally as he does it. I am hoping to observe the blossoming of a green fingered boy.

My son has been so excited about gardening that he decided to start early. He got some pepper seeds and planted them in an old egg carton. He dragged the dirt-filled carton inside and out based on the weather enlisting me for service. These precious seeds could only receive special water of course. Our simple tap water was not good enough to sustain them for growth. Oh, no. This was only the beginning of the gardening season. What was I in for?

The house we live in has a garden area with raised beds… 10 to be exact. Awesome area to plant, but there is only one problem. The whole area needs to be weeded and the ground needs prepared for planting. I encouraged my son to weed early on, so it wouldn’t get too overgrown when spring hit us, but it didn’t happen.

In order to inspire and motivate my son to weed, I offered to help him. Not do it for him (this was his thing), but to help guide him in the process. After two days of working, one and a half plots were cleared. The remaining plots are currently not ready and planting season is upon us. The weeds are growing out of control and are beginning to take over the whole area. I am NOT a gardener, but I am thinking this could be a problem.

Looking at the whole scene of our garden made me think of my heart. I snapped a picture of our garden as a reminder (it is displayed above). My heart is a garden of sorts. My son wants to use one area to plant and grow things and leave the rest alone. Isn’t that what we do at times with our hearts? We focus on getting one area of our lives cleaned up and presentable, while we ignore the rest.

We need to tend to our hearts daily, just like a farmer does to his field. We need to do some weeding. Uproot and pull out anything in our lives in a sense that could be hindering us from moving forward. These things can prevent us from living a fruit-filled life.



Farmers and gardeners work hard to get the ground ready for planting. They turn up the ground, pull weeds, water, fertilize, and prepare the soil expectant of a good harvest. Our hearts and lives can be the same way. What we sow into our lives, we will reap. If we plant good things, good will things will come. If we sow into our lives, bad choices, reckless behavior, sour mouths, and questionable morals… we are going to reap that back. It may not be now, the consequences of that kind of lifestyle will come back to bite us. A scripture in the Bible comes to mind about this…

“Don’t be misled: No one makes a fool of God. What a person plants, he will harvest. The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others—ignoring God!—harvests a crop of weeds. All he’ll have to show for his life is weeds! But the one who plants in response to God, letting God’s Spirit do the growth work in him, harvests a crop of real life, eternal life.”

Galatians 6:7 (MSG)

I am not saying that our hearts need to be perfect looking, but we need to tend our hearts daily. We need to plow up the hardened areas of our hearts (those areas we have ignored or have grown calluses), we need to pull weeds (getting rid of things that shouldn’t be there), we need to water and fill up our lives with good things, and we need to grow positive, healthy fruit. The Bible talks about a type of fruit we can grow in our lives.

Galatians 5:22-23 says…

“But the Spirit produces the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” (NCV)

I want my life to have fruit-filling. I want others to see God in me shining through. His fruit oozing out of my life reflects Him, not me. Producing this kind of fruit takes hard work. I have to fight to keep my heart clean. I have to guard my heart from weeds and trash that likes to accumulate there. Sometimes that means I need to bite my tongue and not say it or repeat it. It may require removing toxic people or things from my life. I may need to change where I go or what I do, but it’s all for good. I may not be able to grow live plants of any kind, but I can grow godly fruit in my heart with God’s help.
 

This whole semester of taking American Literature I have read what seems like story after story that displays various conditions of man’s heart. The bitter heart was displayed in the “Red Badge of Courage.” The corrupted heart came through for me in “The Great Gatsby.” “The Barn Burning” showed me the results of a heart filled with un-forgiveness or resentment toward others. In reading “Good Country People,” I discovered the deceived heart with Hulga and the deceptive heart with Manley. Last, in the story of “Everyday Use,” the idea of the selfish and humble hearts with the sisters came through.
 

I am catching a theme here. Our hearts are very important and what we allow inside of them can shape our character and determine the course of our future. I hope the picture above will make a permanent imprint in your mind to remind you of the importance of gardening your heart. YOU are worth it, my friend!

 

Living to leave a legacy,

Julie

OUCH.... it hurts!

I have been sick since January. It started with the flu and turned into something else entirely. Stomach pain, chest pains, reflux issues, etc… I went to the ER not wanting to take any chances of sending my autoimmune disease into a flare-up. Yes, I have an autoimmune disease. It’s called Myasthenia Gravis and it causes extreme muscle weakness all over my body in it’s worst moments. Currently it is moving into remission after seven years of struggling with it. I have had many ups and downs with this thing. Let’s just say my life has been unpredictable daily. I have had to learn to go with the flow and become flexible which is NOT my personality at all.

My visit to the ER led to a trail of referrals to various doctors and multiple tests. Each appointment or test was delayed by scheduling dragging this whole process out for four months. During this time my symptoms only got worse while the pain increased (I have been sick for practically my entire semester at Ivy Tech). Finally after all of this time, my last visit was with a surgeon who concluded that we needed to remove my gallbladder.

It’s finally gone! I had my gallbladder removed and I am recovering. I am still in pain, but it is a different kind of pain. It’s a healing pain which means things will only get better. The pain will lessen each day and hopefully eventually go away completely. Yay! I can’t wait. Being in pain is very distracting to say the least. Most people had no idea I was in pain. Not that I hide it well, but I have a high pain tollerance. I can do a lot of things by pushing through the pain, but when it comes to really focusing on something… it doesn’t work so well.

Pain is relative. It affects everyone differently. I have a high pain tolerance so I can take or withstand more pain than most for extended periods of time. My husband and one of my sons however have lower pain limitations. Our pain threshhold is the amount of tolerance we have to endure and push through unavoidable feelings of discomfort.

I have experienced many different kinds of pain in my lifetime as I am sure you have as well. Pain transcends all barriers. It has no boundaries. It touches all genders, races, ages, and cultures. It is a taste we all must experience. Pain can manifest itself in different forms in our lives. Heartache from a broken relationship, a scratch on a knee from a fall, facing circumstances beyond our control, the death of a loved one, divorce, feelings of rejection, miscarriage, lost dreams, suffering from disease or sickness, feelings of failure, dealing with a dysfunctional family, the list could go on. No one is exempt from pain. It touches us all. It is how we choose to face that pain that makes all of the difference.

Recently I attended a womens’ retreat where I met an incredible woman who has faced a lot of pain in her lifetime. She married a man who has had his own share of pain. Her story is amazing…. SO amazing I bought a book about her life. It is called, “Call it Incredible” by Mark Nichols Sims. This is what it shares about the book on the cover… The "incredible" true story of God's plan unfolding in the lives of two people who, though on opposite sides of the world, are brought together for a powerful purpose. At the retreat she shared that a contract was just signed to make the book a movie by the same people who brought us Courageous, Fireproof, and Facing the Giants. That is one movie I DO NOT want to miss. Stories of real life people who press forward through their pain are inspiring. They help us see that we are not alone and we can and will make it through to the other side if we keep pushing forward.

Pain is something we will all face at some point in our lives. It is how we face that pain that determines the course of our future. Pain can be a tool when laid in the hands of God used to shape our lives. I remember when I was pregnant going to Lamaze classes with my husband. They shared with us there various methods of how we could work through our pain. Inevitably we were all going to face it at some point so we needed to be ready. Some would choose medicine to alleviate their pain; others would push through panting calmly a rehearsed process of pain control; while some would leave all their training behind and face it head on violently. I am speaking of course in this instant of physical pain, but some of us face other types of pain the same way.

In dealing with my autoimmune disease and all of its countless symptoms as well as side-effects, I have learned various methods of coping that has helped me. My main source of comfort has been giving it all to God. I talk to him about my problems and He listens to me. I have also held on to specific scriptures in the Bible that have encouraged me. One of my favorites has been…

“I can do all things through Christ, because he gives me strength.”     Philippians 4:13 (NCV)

God gives me strength when I need it most to push forward. He helps me endure no matter what pain I am facing; physical pain, emotional scars from past hurts, wounding present offenses, or overwhelming circumstances that weigh me down. God has continued to be faithful to me no matter what. Another coping method that has been helpful for me to manage the pain has been music. The song below is one that I played over and over again for encouragement on my bad days. I have included the lyrics for you to see, as well as a video I played once when sharing my story with a group of ladies. The words of the song and the video are powerful!

"Blessings"

(by Laura Story)

We pray for blessings, we pray for peace
Comfort for family, protection while we sleep
We pray for healing, for prosperity
We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering
And all the while, You hear each spoken need
Yet love us way too much to give us lesser things

'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

We pray for wisdom, Your voice to hear
We cry in anger when we cannot feel You near
We doubt your goodness, we doubt your love
As if every promise from Your word is not enough
And all the while, You hear each desperate plea
And long that we'd have faith to believe

'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops
What if Your healing comes through tears What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

When friends betray us
When darkness seems to winWe know that pain reminds this heart
That this is not,
This is not our home
It's not our home

'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near

What if my greatest disappointments or the aching of this life Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can't satisfy
What if trials of this life
The rain, the storms, the hardest nights
Are your mercies in disguise

Click below here to watch the video I mentioned. It will take you to an old blog post of mine with the video attached. Enjoy!

http://leavingalegacyonline.blogspot.com/2011/12/blog-post.html

We will all face some kind of pain in our lifetime. It is how we choose to deal with that pain that makes all of the difference. Don’t face your pain alone. Enlist friends to come alongside of you to help you push through. You are not alone. Pain when placed in the hands of God can create something beautiful. You are a work of art in the making. Give God the paint brush and allow Him to work His wonders as He creates a masterpiece with YOU.

Living to leave a legacy,

Julie

The Empty Spot

   

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

I recently read the book,  “The Great Gatsby” by Scott Fitzgerald. It was an interesting read. I am pretty sure I read the book while in High school, but remembered nothing of it. It felt kind of like a soap opera as I read it. The Hollywood version should be interesting to see when it comes out, however not family friendly I am sure.

  

One theme that ran through the whole book for me was the idea of the “empty spot.” Each character was in search of something better… more money, more attention, more things, someone to love and adore them more, more, more, more. Nobody seemed happy with what they had. Life would be better “if only” they had this or that. They were each trying to live out their fantasies of the perfect life.

Nick seemed to be the only stable character. He hadn’t decided what he was in search for entirely. He sought stability in his career while considering all of the other options to fill his void in life. Watching everyone else pursue their dreams of grandeur helped him realize what was really important to him. By the end of the story he had gained a new perspective.

Jay Gatsby spent his whole life in pursuit of someone or something to fill that spot deep within… that spot that defined him. Yet, even at the end of his life he was still left with a void. All of them sought something… Daisy wanted security, riches, and true love. Tom wanted status, accolades, and to be adored by a woman. His wife wasn’t enough for him, his heart longed for another. Myrtle, his mistress, loved the opportunities money brought… extravagant things, security, reputation, status, and the hopes of a better life.

Each character attempted to fill their “empty spot” in some fashion. It may surprise you to hear this, but I think our lives mirror these characters in a sense. We may not be having affairs, seek fame or fortune, or even have questionable business dealings, but we do have an “empty spot” deep inside of us that longs to be filled. We may be attempting to fill it with a variety of things to no avail.





Have you ever seen the little kids shape game where you match various shapes and then the pieces fall inside of the circle? We have that game where I work so I see it all the time. One time I watched my son, when he was little play this game in frustration. He seemed to think that whatever shape he chose should fit inside the space no matter what. He would shove, push, bang, and smash to try to make his shape fit with no luck. All he ended up doing was getting more upset while he still held the piece in his hand. Sometimes we do the same thing when it comes to our “empty spot.” We try to get anything and everything to fit to fill it, but nothing works and we end up feeling emptier in the end.



When I was seventeen years old, I realized that there was only one thing that could fit inside the empty spot in my heart and that was God. The hole inside of me was “God Shaped.” Nothing else could fill it, I tried and it all left me empty. God made all the difference! It was obvious to me in the way I felt inside and out. The day I asked Him to come into my life, all the empty spots of my heart were filled and I have never been the same.

 

The storms of life can challenge our faith and sometimes even uproot it if we allow it. Storms can be devastating. Life can be challenging at times and circumstances can sometimes feel overwhelming. It is only when we are grounded and rooted deep in God that we can withstand anything that comes our way.



The Great Gatsby was a great reminder to me that no matter what storms blow into my life, I need to remember to stay rooted in God. When we begin to focus on our circumstances and what we “don’t have,” it’s easy to allow that emptiness to fill our hearts again. God is my “empty spot” filler and I don’t ever want to forget it.

If you are in search of something or someone to fill your “empty spot,” I hope you will consider my “empty spot” filler. He won’t disappoint.

Living to leave a legacy,

Julie