Recently I spoke
to a group of middle/high school girls on a topic that is near and dear to my
heart. The title of my workshop was… “How
to find your Prince Charming and keep him.” We talked about how to find our “happily
ever after” and how we can plan ahead now for an incredible future.
I reminded them
that it is the choices we make today that determines our future tomorrow. We need to make wise decisions. Our focus was concerning boys. I had a lot of fun teaching. Hopefully I was able to give the girls some
things to think about.
I’ve taken this
workshop session and broken it up into three different blog posts for you to
enjoy. If you missed the first two, you
can check them out at the links below…
Part 2
(The Heart)
How
can you find and keep your Prince Charming?
1. Make a List
2. Ready your heart
3….
RESERVE
YOURSELF
Reserve means to
hold back, hide away, or keep in a safe place.
I have a question
for you. If I could talk to you in
person right now I would say, “I want honest feedback from you.”
How much of
your future husband do you want him to SAVE or RESERVE for you? (His
kisses, cuddles, and snuggles… Do you want him to only hold hands with
you? What is okay for him give away and
what should he reserve just for you?)
Of course he
should SAVE it all, right? We deserve
that! Well… with that in mind, let’s
flip the coin. I have another question
for you.
How much of
YOURSELF do you think your Prince Charming wants YOU to save for him? (Your kisses, cuddles, and snuggles. What is okay to give away and what should you
save back?)
It’s a lot harder
to answer that question when it’s pointed toward YOU, isn’t it? Yep.
We expect A LOT out of our Prince Charming, but we struggle some what
with the idea of SAVING anything for him.
Doesn’t our Prince Charming deserve it?
He sure does!
I heard a teen
say recently (in regards to what she should save back for her future spouse) “Isn’t
that what growing up is all about? …dating lots of guys, exploring, and all
that? It’s what you’re supposed to do.”
Really?!? “It’s what you are supposed to do.” I was shocked to hear her nonchalant attitude
toward purity… reserving herself for her future spouse. It was an afterthought. She
hadn’t even considered saving ANYTHING for him at all. That’s sad. Unfortunately that mindset is
prevalent in our culture.
I want to
challenge single gals everywhere
(and guys too if you are reading) to begin doing things differently
as you think toward your future.
YOU are worth
the wait!! …and so is your Prince Charming. In case you didn’t know it, God has an
amazing plan for your life. He really
does! It’s an incredible future!
Jeremiah 29:11 says…
“I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to
take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.”
(MSG)
God
has plans for us and they are good, but sometimes our choices can lead us away
from God’s BEST for us.
“Don’t throw purity out of the
window when it comes to waiting
for
God’s plan to unfold
in your life.”
God wants us to
lock our bodies away in a sense until our wedding day. No sneak peaks, messing around, exploring our
options, or living with our Prince Charming first to make sure we click. Nope…We need to trust God completely!
I don’t know
about you, but we don’t give the key to our home to just anyone. It has to be someone we really trust. If the key to our home is THAT important
wouldn’t you think the keys to our hearts would be more?
Our hearts are
more valuable than our homes.
I want to
encourage you to do something crazy… RESERVE the key to your heart for Jesus
alone until the day you get married.
Then on your wedding day, hand it over to your husband.
Whoever holds
the key to your heart can unlock the door to your body… and that is something that should be
RESERVED for after your wedding.
Determine from
this moment forward that you are going to reserve it all for your future mate?
You may be
reading this thinking… “I didn’t know any of this, nobody told me, now it’s too
late!” Some may have already reaped the
consequences of not waiting or have some regrets. I can’t change that for you, but what I can
tell you is that you can start fresh today RESERVING and SAVING yourself from
this day forward.
Which do
you think your Prince Charming would rather hear?
Nobody told me so
I messed around and when I finally heard the truth it was too late so I just
went with it. Sorry.
Or… nobody told
me so I messed up, but from the moment I heard the truth I saved it all for
you.
I would say the
latter. It’s never too late for you to
do things right. We need to live
differently than the world as Christians.
I John 3:1 says…
“See what
great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called
children of God! And that is what we are!”
We are CHILDREN
of God. If God is the King of Kings and
the Lord of Lords then that means as children we are ROYALTY… Princes and
Princesses.
Princesses
do things differently.
It’s all over the movies.
1. They TALK differently and so should we…
Luke 6:45 says…
“… it is out
of the abundance of the heart that the mouth speaks.” (NRSV)
If ugliness is
inside of us, it will come out of our mouths for all to hear.
I can’t remember
EVER watching a movie or reading a book about a fairy tale where a Princess
cussed someone out, can you? No
way! That’s crazy! Princesses don’t act like that and we
shouldn’t either, right?
We need to clean
up our hearts so clean stuff will come out of our mouths. Gossip, cussing, negativity, cutting down
others, etc… they aren’t becoming of a Princess. We need to TALK differently.
2. Princesses DRESS differently and so should
we…
Can you think
of any fairy tale princesses that dressed scantly showing lots of skin to try
to get the attention of her Prince Charming? I can’t think of any
(The little Mermaid doesn’t count… LOL).
We need to think
about what kind of guy we want to attract by our clothing. We need to dress like a Princess. Don’t they have the MOST beautiful dresses!
We need to do a
modesty check each day before we leave the house. Look in the mirror and ask yourself… “Am I
dressing like a Princess today?”
We
need to DRESS differently.
3. Princesses BEHAVE differently and so should
we…
Princesses
understand that the choices they make today determine their future
tomorrow. That helps them make their
decisions easier of where they go, what they do, and who they do things with.
You need to
make wise decisions when it comes to YOUR behavior with guys… Use wisdom in
WHERE you go, WHAT you do, and WHO you are with.
If your goal is
SAVING yourself… which I hope it is, then you need to do things
differently. You may need to avoid
different places like… his bedroom, dark places, or anywhere you can’t be
interrupted. You may need to find some
safe things to DO that helps guard your purity.
Spending long hours in a dark car wouldn’t be one of them. You may need to change WHO you invite to do
things with you. Some people will lead
you to do things you never dreamed you would do. Choose your friends well. Remember God has an amazing future planned
for you and you need to work to protect it.
We need to BEHAVE
differently.
How much of
yourself do you want to SAVE for your future husband?
I
hope it’s ALL of you. He will be
SO worth the wait! I promise!!
No matter what
your past looks like today concerning guys, I want to encourage you to START
FRESH now preparing for your Prince Charming.
SAVE yourself… lock your heart and body away for that special day. You will never regret it!
Living to leave a
legacy,
Julie
