Thursday, July 13, 2017

Nothing is Wasted

My name is Julie and this is MY story.  We all have a story to tell.  Mine is a story of HOPE in the midst of darkness.  I still remember the day it all happened. 

It was February of 2006, eleven years ago.  I was driving home from visiting family.  A trip that should have taken me 8 hours ended up taking 14 hours to get home.  I grew weaker mile by mile. I had no idea that I was gradually losing control of the muscles in my eyes, mouth, and neck. 

As I drove down the highway, not only was I getting weaker, but I also began having double vision.  It was a blurry mess attempting to discern where the road might be found in the midst of the busy weekend traffic.  If that wasn’t enough trouble, my eye lids started getting heavy threatening to close and my neck started weakening making it difficult for me to hold my head up.  I felt helpless.  Nobody was with me on this trip, so I was all alone dealing with this until I could get home.

When I finally made it home, I dropped into my bed in complete exhaustion.  When morning arrived I thought I would wake up rested, but was shocked to discover that I could barely move at all.  In fact, I needed assistance to get out of my own bed.  Something was seriously wrong, but I didn’t know what!!!

My husband jumped into high gear right away when he could see I wasn’t getting better.  He took care of our boys (who were in Kindergarten and first grade), the house, made all meals, and worked a night job so I wouldn’t have to worry about the boys while he was gone.  He was amazing!

In the meanwhile we visited doctors; had tests done, and met with specialists… attempting to figure out what was making me so sick.  The double vision continued.  My speech slurred as I spoke. It was difficult to both understand and hear me when I spoke because my voice weakened as the day went on to a faint whisper.    I had trouble swallowing.  I could barely eat.  I choked on solid food… even on water at times. 

My husband got creative in feeding me.  He concocted special shakes for me to drink.  He filled them with whatever he could find in the fridge to blend up that might help me gain weight and feel stronger.  I was dropping weight quickly.

Mini Marathon
After three months they finally diagnosed me with an autoimmune disease called Myasthenia Gravis.  It affects everyone differently and mine was a worst-case scenario.  MG weakens the muscles all over your body.  The best way I can describe it is like this… it’s similar to MS in the way it affects the muscles, however it doesn’t get progressively worse.  It also has ups and downs, remissions and flare ups kind of like Fibromyalgia. This is a disease that is not necessarily life threatening, but definitely life altering.

At its best in a sense of remission I was able to walk a mini marathon and complete it.  At its worst I was bedridden during one flare up for a whole year struggling to talk, eat, walk, and care for myself.  I could only get out of bed for four hours a day and I lost 75 pounds in 6 months.  I struggled to gain weight.  I dropped under 100 pounds quickly to just skin and bones.  It was a scary season.

I cannot talk about being sick without sharing my inner struggles with it all.  I had moments of doubt, fear, despair, and disappointment.  When I was the sickest, my bedroom became the place where I lived most of the time.  To say I had a lot of down time is an understatement.  I had time to… think, worry, get lonely, wonder where God was, and be frustrated. 

During a very dark season, God and I had a conversation.  He was there in the quiet of my thoughts.  He and I talked often, but this time was different.   If I have ever felt close to death this was it.  I felt useless and a burden to my family… both physically and financially.  I couldn’t help with anything… homework with the boys, making their lunches, helping get pj’s on before bed, or anything around the house.  I had absolutely NO energy.   I felt helpless and hopeless as a mom.

When I looked into my husband’s eyes I saw sadness... helplessness.  No matter how hard he tried to hide it, I could see worry and a hint of fear behind his smile.  He was filling the roles of both mom and dad with the boys.  I could tell it was taking its toll on him.  He did his best to keep me involved with the boys regardless of my limitations.  Each night they would come see me before bed.  Our time was filled with cuddles as they told me about their day.  Their giggles, hugs, and kisses would make my heart smile.   


Despite my love for my family, I struggled to watch them hurt anymore because of me.  My husband looked so tired.  I felt like the kids were missing out on so much because everyone was so concerned about me.  It wasn’t fair! 

“It would be better…”  I thought.  “…if God just took me home.”  I didn’t want my family to suffer any longer.  I had put them through so much already.  I begged for God to take me.  I had settled things in my spirit and I was ready.

I remember sharing with my husband one night that I was done.  I told him… “I have no more energy to fight.”  He was very upset.  He said, “If nothing else, you need to FIGHT for your family… for your boys!  They would be devastated if anything happened to you.”  I could tell he was on the brink of tears. 
In that moment something broke inside of me and urged me to fight.  I sensed God’s presence wrapping around me filling me with His peace.  I was not alone.  He would be fighting with me too.  I was determined to hang on a little bit longer, but I felt so dead… inside and out. 

I was at the place where I realized that I couldn’t fix it, my husband couldn’t fix it, my doctor couldn’t fix it, and the prayer warriors at my church couldn’t fix it.  It came down to me and Jesus.  He was all that I had left!

I had to learn to trust Him completely no matter what happened.  I could have walked AWAY from God during this season, but instead I chose to run TO Him.  God was REAL to me!  He had always taken care of me in the past, why should now be any different.  I NEEDED to trust Him!  Hope was ignited within me.

It wasn’t long after that dark night that I got a new doctor who was appalled by my condition.  Within weeks he had me on a series of treatments that helped me become 90% better than I had been the previous year.  I guess God wasn’t finished writing my story.  With this new doctor my health improved and with it doors opened for me to share my story with others. 

I have faced many hurdles with my health over the years.  We have tried various treatments to manage my condition.  Some worked for a while and then eventually all the symptoms would come back again.  It’s an ongoing battle of ups and downs.  Needless to say it hasn’t been easy for me or my family.  With medication and a lot of prayer, I have moved forward.


Over the years I have prayed that none of my time struggling with this dreaded disease would ever be wasted.  When I think about all the time I spent stuck in my house, my prison of sorts, it troubles me.  Who has a whole year of their life to throw away?  I didn’t think I did!  I want God to redeem every moment of waiting, worrying, and wondering.  I pray my story inspires others to keep pushing forward trusting God when their difficulties come.

God never ceases to amaze me at how He uses my story as a tool to minister to others.  He has taken me behind doors to places I never thought I would ever go.  I have met people I never thought I would ever encounter.  Divine appointments and open doors have been in abundance as I have trusted Him with the details of my life.  My story of pushing through and trusting God in good times and bad has echoed God’s love to… Nurses, doctors, medical professionals, the old, the young and hurting.   I’ve found that it’s in the messy moments of life that people are drawn to Christ in us the MOST!  God knows my life has been beyond messy… for sure!

I haven’t been completely healed of this yet, but I trust Him!  My faith has grown as I have learned to surrender and believe God for impossible things!  There is one truth that has settled deep into my spirit from that dark season of my life.  When I came to the end of myself and realized that nobody else could help me, I discovered this…

“When you have nothing left BUT God
you find out quickly that He is ALL you really need!”
  
If my messy, faith walk of trusting God with this sickness can help inspire others to trust Him more, then I surrender.  He is the writer of my story and my inspiration for living.  May my life in good times and bad reflect Him well!


Challenge: 
Have you been there before friend?  …in that place you don’t really want to be.  Have you ever felt like something was WASTED in your life?  I felt like my whole year was wasted.  What could I have done during that time if I had the chance?   Only God knows.  

Wasted!  You can’t help but feel defeated when you think about it.  My “wasted” relates to days spent being sick.  For you it may be something else entirely.  I have a question for you friend… whatever “wasted” is for you, will you trust Him?  Will you surrender the reigns of your life over to God and trust Him in good times and bad?  He is faithful friend.  I promise.

Prayer:
God, I pray you would be with my friends today… those who are struggling with trusting you with the details of their lives and those who are doing their best to push through.  Help their faith roots to grow deep as they learn to surrender to you.  Help them to cling to the good, focus on the positive, and see the opportunity for a miracle to happen in every situation.  I pray all fear would be diminished as they step out in faith believing you for impossible things.  Instead of running AWAY from you when facing difficulties, I pray they would run TO you.  Be their greatest source of strength today.  Shine your light upon their life in such a way that others are drawn to you in them.  Thank you God that you aren’t finished writing our story… The best is yet to come!  We love you.

Living to leave a legacy,
Julie

P.S.  If you would like to see an abbreviated video version of my story, you can check it out at the link below.  Thanks for reading!




Friday, June 30, 2017

It’s time to SHINE!


Did you know that people are watching YOU?  I’m serious… they really are!  I remember discovering this for myself when I got my first job as a teenager working at the mall.  The only job I could land as a 16 year old was at a fabric store.  I knew nothing about fabric, sewing, crafts, or the like, but I figured I could learn for a paycheck, right?

On my breaks and lunches I would wander across the mall snacking on food from the food court while looking for bargains.  Do you know what I noticed as I did this?  People were WATCHING me!  In the olden days, when I was a teenager, they called those kind of people… “People Watchers”. 

These special “People Watchers” would go to the mall, sit on benches, and watch people… for fun!  It was kinda creepy!  I’m from Missouri… you know… the “show me” state.  Maybe that’s why people found this SO exciting or entertaining there. 

I guess if you think about it, we are all “People Watchers” in a sense whether we realize it or not.  We watch to see if people are really going to be WHO they say they are to others, or if they are a phony.  If they call themselves a Christian, do they follow ALL of the Bible or just some of it?  Do they really love people or just say they do?  Do they have flaws like everyone else or are they perfect (which is unattainable so why even try this Christian thing if that is the case)?  You get the point… people are watching.  YOU are watching others too.  Maybe that’s why when people mess up or fail in a sense in an area of their lives we are so devastated… we are watching!

I love what Matthew 5:14-16 has to say about how we should “represent” while we are being watched by others.

“You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.” (MSG)

God’s intention for us as Christians is to SHINE… represent Him well to others.  Let His light shine through us.  When we do this, others will be drawn to God in us as a result.

Our church’s mission statement is...
“Love God, Love People, and be a Bridge connecting the two”

When we truly love God and love people the way God would have us to, our life becomes a bridge connecting lost, hurting, and broken people to God.

How can we SHINE brightly for God…

Love God.
Commit to daily spending time with God.  I try not to leave the house until God and I have spent some time together.  I need God’s heart to touch mine before I can connect with people.  If I don’t, the grouchy in me rises up and offends others.  That definitely doesn’t help me shine brightly for God. 

Choose a special time to meet with God each day so it happens.  Do what works best for you.  Find a place that works for you to meet where you won’t be interrupted.  Have a plan.  Where will you read in the Bible?  What do you want to pray for?  Make a list.  See this time with God each day as a “date”.  Look forward to it.  Talk to God like you would a friend and take time to listen too.  I think you will be surprised at what He might want to say to you.

How can we shine bright for God…

Love People.
Be Jesus with skin on for others to see.  Don’t just talk about God’s love with others, show them!  Let them see God in you without you saying a word by the way you LOVE others.  Be different.  Love unconditionally.  Don’t hold grudges.  Forgive quickly.  Let God’s love flow through you.

 People are watching.  Be who you say you are all the time.  Show God’s love every day… not just on Sundays.  How can we do that?  Think about all of the places you go often.  Do you see the same people a lot?  … at the gas station, the grocery store, the bank, the gym, the school, your workplace, etc…  You should if you are paying attention. 

When we are spending time loving on God (before we come face to face with people) and showing God’s love to others daily… eventually God will give us opportunities to help build a bridge to Him.

How can we shine bright for God…

Be a bridge connecting the two.
It all starts with us stepping out of our comfort zone to connect with others.

Think about those people you see often in your life.  I challenge you to start talking to them.  Get to know them better.  Learn their names, ask questions, and be friendly.  Remember the things they say to you and ask them about it the next time you see them.  Show them you care.  If you recognize their face, chances are you look familiar to them too.  Start “building a relationship” with them.   

Recently I found two people that I have seen a lot in “my” world.  One works at a store I frequent often for home supplies.  I noticed him at first when he started.  They seemed to have a huge turnover of employees and this guy stuck around.  Every time I went in there, he was there.  I started being friendly at checkout making small talk.  Eventually I learned his name.  Then I noticed he became one of the managers.  I congratulated him.  Eventually at some point, I will share God with Him as doors open in conversation and bridges of trust are built.  Who knows what will happen then?

The other person I connected with recently works at Bath and Body Works.  I frequent this place every few months to stockpile on wallflowers (air fresheners) to neutralize the “boy stink” in my home.  (If you need help with this, check out a previous blog post I made on tips on how to get rid of the STINK in your home here.) 

When I went there last time, I remember meeting a lady who was a new employee.  She had just moved to the area.  We talked for quite awhile.  She shared some of her story with me. I went back in recently and saw her again… or at least I thought it was her.  I brought up things she had shared with me before and asked if she was “the lady” I had talked to a few months back.  She was!  I love how God brings things to mind right when we need them.  It’s not that I remember everything or that I’m perfect.  God just helps me remember things when I need to for His purposes.  It’s awesome!


It’s time to SHINE friends.  It’s time for us to be purposeful about loving God, loving others, and building bridges for others to come to know Him.  I believe in YOU!  You can do this and it’s SO much fun! 

Ask God today to open your heart to love lost people, your eyes to see them all around you, and your ears to hear their hearts cry.  Let’s become bridge builders for Jesus today.  Who’s with me?

Living to leave a legacy,
Julie 

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

The ugly truth about the last two months…

Hello faithful readers.  Sorry for the delay in posting the last two months.  You have been on my heart regardless of my silence.  There have been LOTS of things I have wanted to say, but didn’t… couldn’t.

The ugly truth is that I’ve been busy and sick… more sick than busy I guess.  I hate posting about being sick.  It seems like it is never ending at times. Sharing about sickness doesn’t seem very encouraging in my opinion.  However every time I do for some reason people feel inspired.  Not sure why.

It seems it is in the messiest and ugliest moments of my life… when I feel I am not at my best and everything is going wrong… that people are touched the most by my efforts.   God shines through the brightest for all to see in our darkest of hours when they are surrendered to Him.  If sharing my struggles out loud for all to hear helps inspire you to keep moving forward trusting God, then buckle your seat belts and get ready for an earful.


So… I guess it all started with me feeling BETTER in March.  I had gone to my regular check up with my neurologist and shared how good I was doing.  I was sleeping better, my autoimmune disease seemed under control, and I was feeling stronger.  I had just gotten over a winter flare up caused by an upper respiratory infection.  It felt like I was on the upswing finally… or so I thought.

My doctor agreed.  I was doing much better.  As a result, he lowered my medicine.  I was excited!  It’s weird to say I was excited about my medicine being lowered, but you have to understand at high doses of some of my medicines side effects accompany them.  If you have ever experienced side effects with long term medicines, you know they are NO fun!  I left the office feeling encouraged by the outcome of my visit.

It wasn’t even a week later and for some reason my symptoms started to flare up again.  I got weaker and weaker as each day passed by.  I was hoping I would get better, but instead I got worse.  I assumed it must have been from the lower dosage of my medicine which really frustrated me.  That was pretty quick to go down hill… errrr.   Finally I gave in and called my doctor.  He scheduled outpatient IV treatments immediately to try to boost my immune system and get me back to normal.  Normally this helps, but not this time.


For the first time in all my years of having IV treatments, I left the hospital feeling worse than when I started.  I couldn’t figure out why.  The whole time I had the treatments I had side effects… hives, fever, migraines, and the like.  This wasn’t normal for me.  I researched online to discover what the trigger might be.  The only thing I could figure out was that the Tetanus shot I had at my family doctor the day before my treatments had caused all my random reactions.  In fact it seems as if it completely negated all of my treatments.  In my research it had happened before to others.  I wish I would have known this before my treatments or at least my doctor’s office would have known.  The weird and rare things always happen to me… It’s true.  I’m not kidding!

So… I got home after my treatments and hoped this was just a freak thing.  I thought I was really going to start getting better, but I didn’t.  I gave it a full three days to see, but nope.  I only got worse.  I called my doctor again.

In the midst of all of my medical frustrations I tried to maintain normalcy for everyone involved.  I continued working part-time, picking my boys up from school and running them around to their various activities, and serving at church in the kid’s ministry or wherever else I had made a commitment.  I continued to do life as it had always been sick or well.  At times, I had to rest more or slow down, but I kept pushing forward.  I had to.  I don’t know how to do anything else.


My favorite verse that has always seen me through many a trouble is… 
Philippians 4:13.  The way I memorized it says it like this… “I can do ALL things through Christ who gives me STRENGTH.” 

I used to focus on the “doing the ALL things” part of that verse.  You know… God helping me get everything done I need to do, but now I see the significance of the “Christ giving me STRENGTH” part as well.  The autoimmune disease I struggle with weakens my muscles (Myasthenia Gravis)…ALL the muscles in my body are weakened when it flares up.  It takes all of my strength away in a sense.  

This verse reminds me that when I am struggling (or feeling weak) if I will go to God, He will give me the strength I need to accomplish all that I need to do.  Maybe not all I “want” to do each day, but what I “need” to do at that moment. 

God has been faithful to see me through many adversities as I have continued to run to Him in the midst of my struggles.  I have learned that no matter WHAT I am struggling with, I need to run to Him!  He is my greatest source of strength.


So… to finish my story, I called my doctor again when I noticed I wasn’t getting better after my initial IV treatments.  He scheduled three days of high dose steroid treatments.  They seemed to work.  I finally started feeling better.

Amid all of my medical drama, I was asked to share MY story on video for our upcoming sermon series at church.  My pastor was beginning a series entitled “Ink”… talking about scars.  The catch phrase was “Scars are tattoos with better stories”.  Each week he shared an inspiring story from each of our staff pastors on how they overcame a difficult season in their lives with God’s help.  Mine of course was all about the struggles of my illness zeroing in on my darkest hour.  My husband and I were both interviewed.


This whole video thing was a real struggle for me.  I guess I just wanted to “feel” well when I shared my story with others… and at that moment I didn’t.  I also struggled with sharing my dark moments with everyone.  It was a very hard time for me and I didn’t want to lose my composure on camera breaking down into tears for all to see.  I wanted others to be encouraged, feel inspired to keep trusting God, and be filled with hope… but it was just really hard right now to do this.

The day we video taped MY story I prayed non-stop.  I wanted to say the “right” things God wanted me to say and feel well enough to say them.  I can’t say I was feeling the best that day, but I can say I did my best to share what was on my heart.  You can check out the video HERE

You can check out the other videos from that series HERE.

Our video doesn’t even come close to telling the whole story… however it does tell a good part of it.  Telling the full story would have taken up the whole Sunday morning leaving no time for Pastor’s sermon.  It was the perfect length for what Pastor needed.

My husband promised to make me another video some time soon (a longer version) of our story to keep.  I’m holding him to that.

When we showed the video I couldn’t hold back the tears.  It was so raw and real to me still to this day.  At the end of the service we were able to come forward to pray with people.  It was SO powerful to hear people say how much “our story” inspired them to keep trusting God for their break through.  Thank you Jesus!  I’m so thankful God can take the seemily horrible moments in our lives and use them for good to touch others.  That in itself helps my time spent being sick not feel as wasted.

So to sum up my last couple months in a nutshell… I got sick.  I called the doctor.  I had IV treatments.  They didn’t work.  I got worse.  I called the doctor.  I had Steroid treatments.  They worked.  I video taped MY story.  We showed it on a Sunday morning in May and lives were impacted. 

P.S.  My oldest son got his driver’s license and his first official job at McDonalds during this time as well.

Some of my amazing nurses
Now just a couple weeks later my symptoms have flared up again and I had to have more IV treatments.  Not sure why.  That makes 11 treatments in 6 weeks.  Yikes!  I’ve never had that many before so close together! 

I talked to a few of the nurses while I was at the hospital this week and explained that I have no idea what is causing the flare up this time.  “It just doesn’t make any sense unless God sent me here to see you gals.  Do you need anything?”  I think they were taken back a little.  Sometimes God does that to me… uses me to speak into the lives of others randomly.  I was so blessed while I was there to be able to share MY story on video with some of the nurses.  By their teary eyes, I could tell they were touched deeply. 

Thank you God for divine appointments and tender hearts!  I pray you will continue to use my story (and the lives of my friends reading this) to inspire others to keep trusting you, following you, and believing you for impossible things.  YOU are faithful!

Who knows why I got sick again or who I might have been there to see?  All I know is that I am finally starting to feel better… and just in time for summer break!
Woohoo!

Living to leave a legacy,
Julie

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Are you looking for your Prince Charming? (The Lock & Key)


Recently I spoke to a group of middle/high school girls on a topic that is near and dear to my heart.  The title of my workshop was… “How to find your Prince Charming and keep him.”   We talked about how to find our “happily ever after” and how we can plan ahead now for an incredible future. 


I reminded them that it is the choices we make today that determines our future tomorrow.   We need to make wise decisions.  Our focus was concerning boys.   I had a lot of fun teaching.  Hopefully I was able to give the girls some things to think about.

I’ve taken this workshop session and broken it up into three different blog posts for you to enjoy.  If you missed the first two, you can check them out at the links below…

PART 1 (The List)
Part 2 (The Heart)

How can you find and keep your Prince Charming?
1.   Make a List
2.   Ready your heart
3….

RESERVE YOURSELF
Reserve means to hold back, hide away, or keep in a safe place.

I have a question for you.  If I could talk to you in person right now I would say, “I want honest feedback from you.”

How much of your future husband do you want him to SAVE or RESERVE for you?  (His kisses, cuddles, and snuggles… Do you want him to only hold hands with you?  What is okay for him give away and what should he reserve just for you?)

Of course he should SAVE it all, right?  We deserve that!  Well… with that in mind, let’s flip the coin.  I have another question for you.


How much of YOURSELF do you think your Prince Charming wants YOU to save for him? (Your kisses, cuddles, and snuggles.  What is okay to give away and what should you save back?)  

It’s a lot harder to answer that question when it’s pointed toward YOU, isn’t it?  Yep.  We expect A LOT out of our Prince Charming, but we struggle some what with the idea of SAVING anything for him.  Doesn’t our Prince Charming deserve it?  He sure does!

I heard a teen say recently (in regards to what she should save back for her future spouse) “Isn’t that what growing up is all about? …dating lots of guys, exploring, and all that?  It’s what you’re supposed to do.”

Really?!?  “It’s what you are supposed to do.”  I was shocked to hear her nonchalant attitude toward purity… reserving herself for her future spouse.  It was an afterthought.   She hadn’t even considered saving ANYTHING for him at all.  That’s sad. Unfortunately that mindset is prevalent in our culture.

I want to challenge single gals everywhere (and guys too if you are reading) to begin doing things differently as you think toward your future

YOU are worth the wait!!   …and so is your Prince Charming.  In case you didn’t know it, God has an amazing plan for your life.  He really does!  It’s an incredible future!

Jeremiah 29:11 says…
“I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” (MSG)


God has plans for us and they are good, but sometimes our choices can lead us away from God’s BEST for us.


“Don’t throw purity out of the window when it comes  to waiting for 
God’s plan to unfold 
in your life.”



God wants us to lock our bodies away in a sense until our wedding day.  No sneak peaks, messing around, exploring our options, or living with our Prince Charming first to make sure we click.  Nope…We need to trust God completely! 



I don’t know about you, but we don’t give the key to our home to just anyone.  It has to be someone we really trust.  If the key to our home is THAT important wouldn’t you think the keys to our hearts would be more?

Our hearts are more valuable than our homes. 

I want to encourage you to do something crazy… RESERVE the key to your heart for Jesus alone until the day you get married.  Then on your wedding day, hand it over to your husband.

Whoever holds the key to your heart can unlock the door to your body… and that is something that should be RESERVED for after your wedding.

Determine from this moment forward that you are going to reserve it all for your future mate?

You may be reading this thinking… “I didn’t know any of this, nobody told me, now it’s too late!”  Some may have already reaped the consequences of not waiting or have some regrets.  I can’t change that for you, but what I can tell you is that you can start fresh today RESERVING and SAVING yourself from this day forward.

Which do you think your Prince Charming would rather hear? 
Nobody told me so I messed around and when I finally heard the truth it was too late so I just went with it.  Sorry.

Or… nobody told me so I messed up, but from the moment I heard the truth I saved it all for you.

I would say the latter.  It’s never too late for you to do things right.  We need to live differently than the world as Christians.

I John 3:1 says…
“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” 


We are CHILDREN of God.  If God is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords then that means as children we are ROYALTY… Princes and Princesses.

Princesses do things differently.  It’s all over the movies.

1.  They TALK differently and so should we…

Luke 6:45 says…
“… it is out of the abundance of the heart that the mouth speaks.” (NRSV)

If ugliness is inside of us, it will come out of our mouths for all to hear.
 
I can’t remember EVER watching a movie or reading a book about a fairy tale where a Princess cussed someone out, can you?  No way!  That’s crazy!   Princesses don’t act like that and we shouldn’t either, right?

We need to clean up our hearts so clean stuff will come out of our mouths.   Gossip, cussing, negativity, cutting down others, etc… they aren’t becoming of a Princess.   We need to TALK differently.


2.  Princesses DRESS differently and so should we…

Can you think of any fairy tale princesses that dressed scantly showing lots of skin to try to get the attention of her Prince Charming?  I can’t think of any (The little Mermaid doesn’t count… LOL).

We need to think about what kind of guy we want to attract by our clothing.  We need to dress like a Princess.  Don’t they have the MOST beautiful dresses!

We need to do a modesty check each day before we leave the house.  Look in the mirror and ask yourself… “Am I dressing like a Princess today?”  

We need to DRESS differently.



3.  Princesses BEHAVE differently and so should we…

Princesses understand that the choices they make today determine their future tomorrow.  That helps them make their decisions easier of where they go, what they do, and who they do things with.

You need to make wise decisions when it comes to YOUR behavior with guys… Use wisdom in WHERE you go, WHAT you do, and WHO you are with.

If your goal is SAVING yourself… which I hope it is, then you need to do things differently.  You may need to avoid different places like… his bedroom, dark places, or anywhere you can’t be interrupted.  You may need to find some safe things to DO that helps guard your purity.  Spending long hours in a dark car wouldn’t be one of them.  You may need to change WHO you invite to do things with you.  Some people will lead you to do things you never dreamed you would do.  Choose your friends well.  Remember God has an amazing future planned for you and you need to work to protect it.

We need to BEHAVE differently.

How much of yourself do you want to SAVE for your future husband?  
I hope it’s ALL of you.  He will be SO worth the wait!  I promise!!


No matter what your past looks like today concerning guys, I want to encourage you to START FRESH now preparing for your Prince Charming.  SAVE yourself… lock your heart and body away for that special day.  You will never regret it!

Living to leave a legacy,
Julie

Monday, March 13, 2017

Are you looking for your Prince Charming? (The Heart)

Recently I spoke to a group of middle/high school girls on a topic that is near and dear to my heart.  The title of my workshop was… “How to find your Prince Charming and keep him.”   We talked about how to find our “happily ever after” and how we can plan ahead now for an incredible future. 

I reminded them that it is the choices we make today that determines our future tomorrow.   We need to make wise decisions.  Our focus was concerning boys.   I had a lot of fun teaching.  Hopefully I was able to give the girls some things to think about.


This is Part 2 from that teaching…  Check out Part 1 HERE.

READY YOUR HEART
Somewhere out there YOUR Prince Charming is praying for YOU… his Cinderella.  I bet he is thinking about what kind of woman “he” wants to marry some day and is imagining what SHE will be like… what YOU will be like.

With that in mind, I have a question for you… What kind of woman are you planning to give your future husband?  What kind of woman will you be?  It can’t be all about how beautiful you are… which you are of course!!!!  There has to be more to you than that.  Think about it...

What does your heart look like on the inside?  Does it need some work?  Is it pretty?

“I think the MOST important thing you can do to prepare yourself
 for your Prince Charming is to place God at the
CENTER of your heart and keep Him there.”


I’m not talking about being religious or simply being good either… it’s about having a personal relationship with God.  It’s about YOU allowing God to have complete control of your life and asking Him to direct your steps… day by day.

When God is at the center of YOUR heart and He is at the center of your PRINCE CHARMING’S heart, then He will be at the CENTER of your marriage!  That is one marriage that will be solid to the core, growing stronger year by year.


MY MARRIAGE
My husband, Al Davis, and I have been married for 23 years now.  Having God at the center of each of our hearts personally and in our marriage has made all the difference.

We’ve been through some very difficult seasons in our marriage.  I have had some serious health issues and scares over the years which has created a lot of stress for us.  My husband has been amazing through it all.  He has carried me through, kept me focused on God, and stuck by my side no matter what life threw our way.  I am blessed!

He is an awesome man of God… a spiritual leader for our family with incredible faith that inspires us all.  He always keeps a smile on my face and makes my heart happy. My love for him has only grown deeper and stronger over the years.

Let me tell you a secret… When I met my husband way back in college he was on fire for God.  He LOVED God and everyone knew it.  There was evidence!  I observed his relationship with God (when he wasn't looking) and discovered it was real and personal.  I longed for what he had.

Do you want to know something else?  He’s the same person today as he was back then… well, maybe a little older.  God is STILL first place in his life (at the center of his heart)… which is awesome!  That means Al Davis, with God’s help will become the BEST person he can be.... giving me an even more incredible husband as the years go by as he stays connected to God.

The same should be true of me, right?  I need to have an on-going, growing relationship with God so I can become the BEST “Me” I can be for my Prince Charming.  He deserves that!

You need to make it your mission this year (for all you single ladies) to chase God MORE than you are any guys around you.  Be on the look out for those guys that love God and there is evidence to prove it.  They are treasures to be found!

I heard it said before that you should…

“Run as fast as you can towards God and if
someone keeps up, introduce yourself.”


Marrying a godly man makes a difference gals!  Don’t go for the guy who just goes to church or kinda lives for God.  Find the guy who is on fire for God!  He will be the one who STAYS on fire for God all throughout your marriage.  Godly men will treat you right... ladies.  They are worth the wait!

The man you marry some day needs to be as much in love with God as he is with you.  The same should be true for you...  YOU should love God more than any man in your life.  This won’t guarantee your marriage will be perfect, but it will guarantee your love will grow stronger as you continue to keep God at the center.


Let this be your goal…

“Your heart needs to be so hidden in God that 
a man has to seek Him just to find you.” 
 – Maya Angelou


How can you KEEP your Prince Charming when you find him?

Matthew 6:33 says…
“Seek first God’s kingdom and what God wants.  Then all your other needs will be met as well.” (NCV)

When God is at the CENTER of your heart and marriage, your man won’t be going anywhere.  Nobody will ever compare to the incredible woman you become with God at the center of your heart and life.
  

The best gift you can give your future Prince Charming is 
the BEST you that you can be… God at the center makes all the difference!  

If God isn’t at the center of your heart today, I challenge you to make some changes.  Talk to Him about it and commit your life to Him completely.  Tell a friend, get a Bible and start reading it (I like the New Living or New Century versions of the Bible.  The book of John is a great place to start reading.), find a church, and begin BECOMING who God created you to be today.  A life totally committed to God is a life you will never regret!

Be watching for the final post in this series coming soon (Part 3... The Lock & Key)

Living to leave a legacy,
Julie