Friday, March 23, 2018

“What if Barbie was a real woman?”

If you struggle with your self-esteem, care too much what others think, have daddy issues, or relationship troubles, you will want to keep reading…

Recently I had the chance to speak at my boys’ school for their Spiritual Emphasis days.  I actually did two workshops for girls only.  The title of my session was “She’s Beautiful!”  The emphasis was on how to build a healthy self-esteem.   I wanted to help them answer the following questions before we finished our session…

                                                          1.  Who do others say that I am?
      (What do others think of ME?)

2.  Who does God say that I am?
      (What does God think of ME?)

3.  Who do I say that I am?
     (What do I think of ME?)

I thought I would take a few moments to share with you some of what I did with them on that day.   This is Part Two from my original post “She’s Beautiful” (You can read Part One HERE).

YOU are beautiful!  Is that hard for you to believe?  
Well… it’s true!  Say it out loud for all to hear, “I’M BEAUTIFUL!”

The idea of being “beautiful” is a big deal to us whether we realize it or not.  We really do care what others think about us on the outside.  But, what makes someone “Beautiful”?
We could ask a million people today this same question and probably get a million different answers.  It really comes down to how “we” define beauty.

For some Beauty is defined by the perfect shaped body, the right color hair, a perfect complexion, or lightly tanned skin.  For others it’s all about personality, smarts, and what’s in the heart. 

Did you know that there are “tools” that help us measure outward beauty?  Three come to mind for me… a mirror, a scale, and measuring tape.

Have you ever looked into a mirror and not liked what you saw?  I have!!!  It seems that the larger the mirror we look into, the MORE imperfections we find.  “I’m too fat, my nose is too big, my hair is too frizzy or too straight, my eyebrows are growing together… yikes!  This body is out of control!” 

We never seem to be perfect enough when we look into that magic mirror, do we?  But, think about it…
                             Who decides what the perfect reflection should look like?

Have you ever gotten onto a scale and not liked the number you saw? I have!!! Maybe you avoid scales like the plague or only check it at the doctor’s office.  Nobody ever seems to be skinny enough when they stand on it.  That special number recorded on the scale can be a good thing or a bad thing... depending on the person.  For most it’s a secret number never shared with others.  But, why?

                            Who decides what weight is the perfect weight for everyone?

Have you ever used measuring tape to determine how small or big an area of your body is compared to others?  I have!!!  Some of the girls in my workshop didn’t even know what a measuring tape was when I held it up.  I explained that it was used to help measure every nook and cranny of your body to see if you are the perfect size… and it’s used for sewing too of course.   But, think about it…
                                          Who decides what that perfect size should be?

I don’t know about you, but when I was a kid, “Barbie” was our role model.  Everyone wanted to grow up to be like this little doll.  She was skinny, had long, beautiful blonde hair, perfect white teeth, an amazing wardrobe, a cool pink car, a horse, a fancy house, and a hunk of a boyfriend named Ken. 
                                The big problem with Barbie is that an “Unrealistic Image” 
was placed in our minds as children that we could never attain. 

The perfect reflection, weight, and size of Barbie is totally impossible for anyone to ever accomplish!  We can NEVER measure up to it!  Let me explain…

Check out the comparison of Barbie’s measurements to those of an average woman below.  Barbie’s size and measurements do not add up to balanced proportions.  If she was a real woman, the closest comparison would be to that of someone who is severely anorexic.

What would life be like if a REAL woman had Barbie's body?
Based on her measurements, her bones would be frail causing lots of problems.  Her head would be two inches larger than the average  American woman's resting on a neck twice as long and six inches thinner.  Because of this she'd be entirely incapable of lifting her head.  She would have to walk on all fours to get around because her feet are so disproportionately small and her legs are so long.  She would have trouble standing because her chest would pull her forward onto her toes.  To top it all off, her head would be the same circumference as her waist meaning she would only have room for half a liver and few inches of intestines.   The result would be chronic diarrhea and death from malnutrition.  This is not what every girl dreams of when she imagines being like Barbie when she grows up.  

                       Did you know that 3 Billion women on the planet don’t look like Barbie?
(Only 8 women will ever come close.)

 Barbie vs. Average
                                   Barbie                   Average Woman
       39” (FF)
      36” (B)
110 lbs

(35 lbs underweight for her height)

140 lbs
Shoe Size
Size 3
Size 8.5

These measurements are totally impossible!!!   Nobody could ever accomplish this with out paying a lot of money out for plastic surgery and/or becoming severely anorexic in the process.

God did not create each of us to look like ONE person here on earth.  God likes variety!!!  The world has fooled us into believing that we have to change ourselves to become this PERFECT ideal of Barbie.  But nobody can do it! 

The rules aren’t fair when they make the “perfect ideal” so out of reach for us and they use Photo shop among other programs on all of the images they show us of skinny, perfect people in magazines and on TV.  Even the models who are in the pictures don’t measure up to these Barbie standards.

Do you remember those initial questions I was hoping to answer in my workshop for the girls?  The first one was…

Who do OTHERS say that I am? (What do others think of me?)

My answer:  Who Cares?  It’s not worth my time or energy.

I’m sure glad God doesn’t see us the same way the world does.  He looks beyond the surface of our lives into our hearts.  He sees beauty inside and out.

I Samuel 16:7 says…
“People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (NLT)

Be watching soon for my next post in this series of notes from my workshop for the girls called… “What does God think of ME?”

I hope if nothing else you have learned from this blog post that we can NEVER measure up to the world’s standards of beauty.  It is totally unattainable and a waste of time.  God made you the way you are for a reason!  He adores you and thinks YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!  Believe it friend!  It’s true!

Living to leave a legacy,

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